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Anxiety and Shopping

Shopping can be wonderful, especially if you’re meeting up with your friends, having a look round at things you’ll never be able to afford and then go sit with a coffee and have a good old fashioned catch up and gossip.

The problems can start when you need to go shopping on your own and when you have anxiety.

Anxiety and Shopping

From my own personal experience I’ve found that I have days when I can cope on my own pretty well, I’ve been able to go eat on my own and even go for a wander and a window-shop.

Other days I have to be in and out as quickly as possible, I have constant intrusive thoughts about how everyone is looking and laughing at me because I’m ugly or have something on my face.

Unfortunately I can’t tell if I’m going to have a good day or a bad day until I’m actually there which is really annoying, so I’ve found that the best thing to do is plan for a bad day and then if I have a good one, its a nice surprise!

The main problem I have with shopping centres is that they’re so overstimulating, especially in larger ones: too many people, too much noise and in the case of Meadowhall, way too hot! I know that part of this is my Aspergers but speaking to other anxiety fighters, it sounds like loads of people struggle with this so I thought i’d cover it in this weeks post.

Anxiety and Shopping

These are some tips that I’ve picked up over the years from personal experience and also from taking to other people. If I’ve missed any then please feel free to add them in the comments- I want this post to be as helpful as possible.

  1. Not going to lie, online shopping is my best friend. Its great when you know exactly what you want and you’re willing to wait a day or two to get it. Now the biggest problem for me is that i’m such a funny size in clothing, especially trousers. I can be a size 10 in one shop and then struggle to fit into a 14 in another! I really wish that brands would stick to the same sizes, it would make life so much easier. Luckily most places are good with returns but it is a bit of a faf, having to send things back and wait for the new one. However it can be a lifesaver in emergencies!
  2. Go when it isn’t going to be busy. I know that this can be hard to judge sometimes but this is something I always try and do. I know not everyone will be able to do this but if you can avoid going on the weekend it will be so much quieter. Ive found that going before 10am on a weekday is the quietest time, but just before closing is another great option!
  3. Where possible take someone with you. It will help to have someone there to distract you and also give you advice on things. This is vital if you’re like me as i’m so indecisive and hate spending money; I could spend an hour in a shop, pick up loads of things and end up talking myself out of buying all of them! Also my friends know my tells so they notice when I’m about to have a panic attack and can either get me out of the situation or try and keep me calm/distract me.
  4. Shop in Charity shops. For some reason there is still a huge stigma around shopping in charity shops but honestly, they’re amazing! Almost all of my clothes come from there, have done for years. I have picked up tons of high end, branded items for a couple of pounds! You can get some gorgeous and unusual home wear items too for a fraction of a cost. Plus the money goes to a good cause rather than lining the pockets of big brands. Not only are they great value but, because of the stigma they are usually really quiet too!
  5. Lists. You’ll notice this will probably be in every post but honestly, lists will be your new best friends! If you know for a fact you need to go shopping for specific items then write them down. I don’t know about you but when I’m anxious I forget absolutely everything. I even forgot my name once when I was having a panic attack! So to make sure you don’t forget the things you absolutely need to pick up, write them down. You can get loads of great apps for your phone or you can stick with the trusty pen and paper. Or do both, whatever works for you!

So there you go, again if you have any other tips I’ve missed out then drop me a comment!

The full Anxiety series:

eBay and Anxiety

Anxiety & Travelling

Anxiety and Shopping

Anxiety and The Pill

Anxiety and Blogging

Anxiety & Bullying

Anxiety and Dating

Learning to Drive with Anxiety

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21 Comments

  1. mynovemberblog

    September 27, 2016 at 6:32 am

    This why I love reading posts, hearing that I’m not the only one makes me feel much more normal. I am only just coping going into a shop on my own, I use to be even worse an couldn’t even go to a till to pay. I really enjoyed reading this post, an the tips I will 100% take on some.

  2. Jade Marie

    September 27, 2016 at 6:44 am

    Thank you so much, I’m glad to hear it’s helped you! 🙂
    I know exactly what you mean about reading a post and then being able to go “it’s not just me”-that’s part of the reason i started the series, because I do it too and it make me feel better!
    I’m sorry it’s so bad for you but you’ve done so well getting past paying at tills, little baby steps and celebrate your achievements 🙂

  3. mynovemberblog

    September 27, 2016 at 9:12 am

    Thank you so much it means so much, keep up the good work too 👍🏼

  4. Leneth

    September 27, 2016 at 3:05 pm

    I love this post. When my anxiety was at its highest I couldn’t go in any shop.. now I’m much better, also because I tell myself that if I feel a bit panicky, no one is stopping me to walk out. These tips were so helpful, definitely saving it for later 🙂

  5. Jade Marie

    September 27, 2016 at 3:08 pm

    It’s great to hear you’ve been able to logic yourself in situations like that 🙂 that’s a really good point that I’d not actually thought of too 🙂
    And I’m glad you’ve found them useful! 🙂

  6. Emma Colbeck

    September 27, 2016 at 5:20 pm

    Thank you for sharing this! This is really going to help me out a lot. I swear by going shopping earlier in the morning when it is much quiter as I find it way more comfortable.
    Emma x

    https://www.emmauty.blogspot.com

  7. Jade Marie

    September 27, 2016 at 5:24 pm

    Your welcome Emma I’m really glad I could help! 🙂 I love going earlier, it’s nice and quite and so much easier!x

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