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Am I Really Cut Out To Be A Full Time Blogger?

14/09/2018

Ever since I can remember, I’ve loved to write; from poetry that was published in young anthologies to short stories about evil aunties and pet dragons, it’s always been a passion and an escape for me. 

So while I’ve no doubt about my writing skills (which sounds extremely big headed to say), I’m not completely sure I’m cut out to be a blogger.  

Or at least, not the kind who can make a full time income from her blog. 

Which is really worrying to think about considering this is my career plan. I’m even going on to do a Masters in Entrepreneurship next month, which I’m really trying not to second guess myself over!  

Whitby Abbey Ruins

While I know I’m good at creating content and I’m even starting to gain a decent following online; I suck at networking and meeting new people, especially at brand or press events. 

And don’t even get me started on reaching out to brands asking to collaborate!

Even in a small group of only 5 or 6 people, I can almost guarantee that I’ll be the one sat on my own trying to figure out how to make conversation, or join in one that’s already going on. 

And I know that’s my own fault mostly. 

I’m hardly the most interesting person ever; in bed by 11, never been on a real holiday, not particularly into fashion/beauty and hates reality tv – I don’t leave myself much to work with. 

Unless of course you like sarcasm and self deprecating humour. 

But so much of being a “successful” blogger seems to rely on being popular and sociable and interesting. Building a good relationship with the people, not just brands but also the people who read my blog. 

All thing my autism makes ten times harder than it needs to be. 

Mustard Primark Bag

I’m not even really sure why I’m writing this. 

Maybe it’s because back when I first started my blog, it was a place for me to vent and talk about everything that was going on in my head, and just this once I want to have that luxury again. 

But also because I want to start showing the real me a little more. I don’t want to give the impression that my life is perfect or that I never have any self doubts; that isn’t the case at all. 

Hell if I manage to get through the week without wanting to quit everything and just curl up in bed and cry, it’s a miracle! 

I’m not about to quit my blog though.

Nor am I going to give up my dream of making a full time income from writing; if anything, feeling like this just makes me even more determined to succeed. To show the world (and most importantly, myself) that you can succeed at anything you put your mind to, and that autism (or any other condition) should be no obstacle to achieving your dreams. 

Whitby Abbey Ruins

But occasionally need to write about the side to things that I try my best to hide; the insecurities and the worries and the constant fight with my own brain. 

And I guess this is one of those times. 

So with that off my chest, I’m going to curl up in bed with a hot chocolate and lose myself in a land full of dwarves, elves and magic rings. 

(Also gold star if you know what books I’m currently reading from that description!) 

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Am I Really Cut Out To Be A Full Time Blogger?

26 responses to “Am I Really Cut Out To Be A Full Time Blogger?”

  1. ruthinrevolt says:

    I’ve been feeling a similar way lately, Jade! I see everyone going to blogging events and things like that, and I start to wonder if that could ever be me. I’m determined, more so than ever, because it’s the first thing I’ve fallen in love with doing, but those same concerns about my personality haunt me. We obviously just need to attend the same events, discuss the beauty of naps and how naff reality TV is! 😉

    Honestly, I think you’re a wonderful blogger and, as I’ve mentioned before, one I’ve respected ever since I came across your blog. I’m glad you’re not going to give up, because it would be a huge loss (not only for me, but for others, too, I’m sure!) Well done for showing a vulnerable side, too, though. 💛

  2. I’ve never been to a blogging event in my life! I’ve been invited to a few (although they’ve mostly been book events) but my anxiety has always gotten the better of me. But I tell you what, if I did go, I definitely wouldn’t want to be talking to people about reality TV and all the “normal” stuff. Obviously I can’t relate nor comment about how autism effects you as well but I know from having anxiety that these thoughts are all too common (hence my little breakdown to you on twitter the other day LOL). I don’t think blogging events are the be-all and end-all of making it as a successful blogger. Reaching out to brands can be a part of it, sure but again, it’s not the be-all and end-all. I’ve been reaching out to brands recently but only 2 have got back to me and they were the two smallest brands of the lot. It’s hard, REALLY HARD. But don’t forget, you’re not the only person putting themselves out there, contacting brands etc. They’re seen and heard it all before! Don’t give up, your blog is wonderful and I’m thrilled to hear your following is growing too! You deserve it, tenfold <3 xxx

  3. Sometimes I dream of being a full time blogger because i’d work from home and be on my own but sometimes I think that I am too bad at networking. Also not sure i could handle being alone very long. Going to blogger events is great and things but I also want some nights for myself

  4. Alys George says:

    Jade, I loved how honest you were in this. You should be so proud of your blog because it is amazing. You’re not the only one who finds it difficult is groups of people or to be a part of what they call ‘the popular crowd’. I don’t do any of those things, I simply blog because it’s something I love to do.

    Keep doing what you’re doing lovely, I would also really love a hot chocolate as well!

  5. Bexa says:

    I love that you are so honest and relatable Jade. I’m absolutely terrified about going to blogging events too and often worry that I’ll have no conversation as I’m not into beauty or reality tv either. I think your blog and personality are both awesome so keep being you. Hopefully in the future we will go to the same event and can keep each other company <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  6. Great advice! I know i’m not ready to go full time but maybe one day!

  7. Blogging really is a lot more work than it seems! Best of luck to you . . . you can do it!

  8. I recognize the self-doubt – probably because I’m the queen of it 😉 I think that if you are willing to give yourself the time to figure out your best path, you will be wonderfully successful at blogging full time. 😊

    🌟 I shamefully can not read the hobbit or lord of the rings but I love the movies!

  9. Kristina says:

    Chin up, and keep at it! You’re absolutely cut out to be a blogger — just give yourself the room to accept where you are now so that you can look forward to and plan for the future in your blogging career. 🙂

  10. I honestly think we all feel like this at some point in our journey. For me it when I see people who haven’t been blogging as long as that are already so much more successful than I am. I start to wonder if I’m writing good enough content or if I’m just a bore! 😂

  11. eviebraithwaite says:

    I can’t tell you how many times I’ve doubted whether I’m cut out to be a full-time blogger. However, the definition of a ‘blogger’ is constantly changing, and it’s such a diverse field that anyone who has a passion for writing can do it. I’m awful when it comes to meeting new people, but, I love writing and lately my blog has been my go-to place to offload thoughts and share them with the blogging community. I can’t wait to continue reading your blog, your writing is always so fine-tuned and beautiful. Loved this! ✨ (I just finished reading The Fellowship of The Ring and didn’t enjoy it, I’m sorry!! Loved loved loved The Hobbit though haha)

    Evie x | https://eviejayne.co.uk

  12. Jade Marie says:

    It would be amazing if we could go to the same events! I’d love to meet you in real life, we have a lot in common and I could talk all day about naps and crap TV 😉

    Thank you so much for your words and constant support Ruth, it really means a lot to me 😊 I look up to you for how well you’ve been able to grow your following – I should be taking tips from you! 🖤 I was so nervous about posting this, but the reaction I’ve had so far has been completely positive and supportive!

  13. Jade Marie says:

    Oh wow, I never realised! I’m sorry your anxiety has stopped you going, it’s shit how much it can effect your life 😔 Feel free to message me and have a mini breakdown whenever you feel you need one – I always feel better after having one in a strange way lol

    It’s nice to hear you say that though, I feel like people really push them as important; same with reaching out to brands yourself. I hope that you;re right and that it isn’t as important – it’s not something I’m ever going to be good at lol I’m glad you’ve heard back from two of them though! 🖤

    And thank you! I’m glad its finally starting to pick up too 😌 xxx

  14. Jade Marie says:

    I love being alone, thats actually one of the main perks for me haha I’ll admit, its very hard to switch off from being a blogger – I find myself working on posts when I really should be relaxing and enjoying time with my boyfriend/family!

  15. Jade Marie says:

    Thanks!

  16. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you Alys! I was so worried about posting this, but I’m actually so glad I did in the long run; it seems so many people feel the same way. I am actually really proud of my blog – I can’t believe how much its grown over the last two years! I can’t imagine not blogging now, even if I do get dispirited every so often.

    And hot chocolate is the best this time of year!

  17. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much Bexa! 🖤 I hope we can be at the same blogging events in the future too, it would be great to meet in real life 😌 Its so kind of you to say that about me – I really do appreciate it lovely 😘 xx

  18. Jade Marie says:

    I hope it all goes well for you when and if you do decide to go full time 😊

  19. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you!

  20. Hi jade!

    I have been to one blog event and I felt so out of place. I am not a very sociable person so I completely understand. I am also determined to make my blog my full time job!

    Keep up the great work you’re an inspiration

    Anne xx

  21. Your interests are better off being different to others, no one wants to read the same thing over and over again. I love your blog and I think you are a great writer who can really make something of it!

  22. Soffy S says:

    It felt like I was reading about myself! But I’m in bed by 8:30 on most days 🙂 I think you’re a fantastic blogger actually, you are what makes your blog unique so be proud of yourself ❤️

  23. Jenn says:

    I often feel the same as you and the one blog event I have ever attended I stood around feeling really awkward as I struggle to strike up conversation with people I don’t know. However please remember you can only be you 😊 and if your blog is anything to go by then you are a wonderful, caring down to earth person who is a great writer and an inspiration 😁 I hope your well 🖤

  24. Are you reading LOTR by any chance? 😁

    I’m reading this as I’m currently in a bath, with a book and some candles. Likely to be in bed by 10:30pm. Believe me when I say, we are so alike 😅

    I’ve felt the same lately. Felt a pressure to be infront of my camera instead of behind it. Maybe even in carefully picked out clothes to match the scenery or at a location that a heavily photographed. Because that seems to be the common theme amongst the “successful”.

    I could comment about this for days. I’ve been invited to events I’ve been to scared to attend because of almost feel a fraud. Reaching out to brands for collaborations and sponsored posts gives me heart palpitations and my less than eventful social life means I don’t often have much to photograph outside of my home. I feel completely inadequate most of the time. Yet, I have the same hopes and dreams of writing for a living with my blog my medium of choice.

    I think we all feel this way. Whether we like to admit it or not. But you’re an incredibly talents writer and wonderful person. You can and will achieve anything you want to!

    Laura ☆ laurahasablog.co.uk

  25. Jade Marie says:

    I am indeed! 😁 gold star and a packet on lembas bread for you 🙊

    Nothing wrong with that at all – it sounds perfect to me! Honestly I think I’d be asleep already if it wasn’t for the fact Chris is laid on me playing Sims 4 😂 we are so alike though, it’s great! 😅

    I’m sorry you’ve been feeling the same way recently, it sucks! 😔 I hope we can get invited to the same events one day, that way we can help and encourage each other ☺️ I’m the same with brands and social life though; I love being an introvert but it does have some major drawbacks! 😂

    I’m certain you’ll achieve all your hopes and dreams – you’re an amazing blogger and I’m sure you’ll go far! ☺️

    Thank you so much for saying that lovely! I’m definitely my own worst critic but I’m glad to know other people like what I do and believe in me – it really helps ☺️

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HI THERE!

Thanks for stopping by! I’m a twenty-five-year-old digital media graduate with a passion for writing and a desire to change the way we view mental health and autism. I’ve owned jademarie.co.uk for nearly two years now, and its slowly changed from a place where I would brain dump whatever was going through my head that day, into a place where people can come for help, advice and hopefully a bit of a laugh. I do occasionally come out with a witty sentence or two. Mostly by accident.

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