Mental Health

Not Everyone Enjoys Their Time At University

So this post is basically inspired by a tweet I saw from the lovely Sophie (PetalsOfPerfection) that said:

Beyond excited to graduate… sorry but if anyone says to me that uni years are the best years of my life. YOU ARE WRONG.

I couldn’t agree more!

I’m so sick of hearing that your days at university are the best of your life, that it’s where you’ll meet your best friends for life and you’ll always wish you could go back.

Because it’s just not true for everyone!

Not Everyone Enjoys Their Time At University

I hate university. Or rather I suppose I should clarify that- I hate the university that I’m currently at. As some of you may remember, I originally went to a very small university that had 7 people in my class: everyone got on really well and I had two of the best years I’d ever had in education.

Hell, I even managed to go out on (and more importantly, enjoy) nights out every other week!

But then I moved to Sheffield Hallam to top up my HND into a full degree and everything changed. I had to redo second year as I changed courses slightly- I moved from graphic design to digital media production. This meant I was coming into a class full of people who already knew each other and had solid friendship groups. People just completely ignored me and I just sat at the front feeling completely isolated and upset.

Things didn’t really change even after I’d been there a year!

Worse than that, it turns out that there’s no age limit to bullying: I was getting snide comments and sarcastic remarks from a group of boys almost from the second I walked into my first lesson and it only stopped when they realised I wasn’t going to show any emotion or react to what they were doing.

In all honesty it was worse than being in secondary school- at least there I had a few friends to sit with at dinner, talk to during class and while walk around with.

Not Everyone Enjoys Their Time At University

I will honestly be so glad when I’ve graduated. I’ve not even started my final year and I’m already having panic attacks about having to go in again! The thing is that I want to try and do a masters in journalism, which would mean not only getting myself into even more debt (I probably already owe over £50,000!) but it means staying at university and putting myself through hell for another year. I can’t decide if it’s worth it or not.

Not only that but I’m sick of having a stereotype attached to me when I say I’m a uni student! Not everyone wants to go out and party. Not everyone even leaves home! I chose to keep living at home and just commute in because I couldn’t afford (and couldn’t stand the thought of living in) student accommodation. I don’t go out drinking and partying holds no interest to me.

Sure I went out at my previous uni, but that’s because I enjoyed the company and had fun kicking the guys asses at pool- not because I wanted to go drinking and partying. I was always back home by 10pm and I never got drunk…well except when I tried cocktails for the first time and didn’t realise they took a while to hit you…I won’t make that mistake again!

That last bit was kind of a brain dump rant that doesn’t quite fit. Sorry about that.

If you don’t enjoy university, for whatever reason, I promise you that you aren’t alone. The response to Sophie’s tweet actually surprised me: so many people tweeted that they hated university too and couldn’t wait to leave! It seems to be more common that I realised.

What has your experience been? Do you love uni or hate it?

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6 Comments

  1. rebekahgillian

    September 16, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I haven’t been to university, but as someone who considered it my next steps up until very recently, it’s really interesting to hear a perspective unlike the one pushed down your throat by education officials. I think it proves that you really have to love the university environment you’re going into, and that it can make all the difference in the enjoyment you get out of the course. Good luck if you do decide to go ahead and get your masters in journalism; it would be a shame if others stopped you from achieving your dreams.

  2. Jade Marie

    September 16, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    I hope I’ve not put you off going :/ you’re right though, you have to love the environment and atmosphere of it all really otherwise it can have a bit of an adverse effect on your studies, especially at the beginning while you get used to it all 🙁 thank you though lovely! I never thought I’d do a masters so it’s really strange to think about haha I’d love to do it though if I could talk my way into the course 🙂

  3. Life of Little Things

    September 16, 2017 at 8:39 pm

    I saw the same tweet and thought ‘thank god’ – everyone hypes up university so much and I’ve not enjoyed my first year at all! So reassuring to hear I’m not the only one xxxx

  4. Jade Marie

    September 16, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    I’m sorry you’ve not enjoyed your first year hun 🙁 hopefully things pick up for you! I thought the same when I saw it though- thank goodness it’s not just me!xxxx

  5. Britney

    September 17, 2017 at 10:10 pm

    That’s awful that people were still being bullies in college. Some people just never seem to grow up, and it’s sad.

  6. Jade Marie

    September 18, 2017 at 8:00 am

    Once a bully always a bully in some cases, on of my friends gets bullied at work by someone who’s in her 40’s!

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