Ruby Wax- Frazzled Review
Okay so, you need this book in your life. Immediately.
It’s not one of those super serious books that just talks about mindfulness and why you need it, its like reading a comedy show! Full of self depreciation, personal stories and lots of common sense.
Now I’ve done more counseling sessions that I can be bothered to count and each one has been more pointless than the last. Just a guy sat there saying its all in my head. Hmm, yeah almost like its a mental health condition!
But thats a rant for another post.
This book isn’t like that.
It goes into some of the technicalities behind mindfulness, which are actually quite interesting, but for the most part it is like reading Ruby’s own journey. She talks very openly about her own past and her struggles with her mental health which I think takes a hell of a lot of courage.
Even more to make it humorous. I can personally relate to doing this- its my self defence mechanism to take the piss out of myself, make people laugh at me because I made them, rather than just laughing at me in general. Also it means the people who want to say nasty things about you loose the power to do so, because you’ve already done it to yourself.
There are lots of different sections in this book and in all honesty you don’t even need to read the whole thing if you don’t want to. You can just skip to the section you think is most relevant to you. There are sections for Parents, Babies & Children, Older Kids & Teenagers and also a Six-Week Mindfulness Course.
The course is absolutely amazing by the way! Obviously I’ve not had the book six weeks but as someone who’s been using mindfulness for at least two years now, all I can say is I wish I had this book when I first started! I was introduced to it by one of the aforementioned counselors but it wasn’t in the best way. It was made out to be this thing you have to sit perfectly still for, in a certain position for a certain amount of time per day.
No wonder I said F that and never bothered with it!
By sheer dumb look I started to think about the things he’s told me to do and realized that I could use it in my day to day life with a bit of practice and perseverance. But that took me a good 6 months to figure out and get the hang of.
Ruby covers that in the first paragraph!
The exercises are really simple and easy to do, after the first week or so you won’t even notice you’re doing them, it will have become habit. She even has tips for how mindfulness can help when you’re running late or have to do public speaking: as someone with social anxiety this is so frigging helpful!
I was originally sent this book by PR and this is actually the first time I’ve ever been sent any blogger mail so I’m super excited about it! However I’m not about to sing the praises of anything I don’t honestly love, no matter how excited I might be.
Plus my best friend is actually desperate to borrow this book off of me, she keeps texting me asking if I’ve finished with it yet, and she isn’t much of a reader either so that in itself shows it must be good!
This book is perfect for everyone: if you’re new to mindfulness this would be a great place to start and if you’re someone who already practices it, it’s a great laugh and has some great peals of wisdom in it.
One of my favourite ones, and what I’m going to finish this blog post with, is: If you’re thinking, “I still can’t do it” as in “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” (you being the dog), I ask you to answer these questions: Did you come out of the womb knowing how to slam-dunk a basketball? Did you automatically know how to speak Swahili? Cook a barbecue? Pole dance? No, you did not. Everything you do except excrete, eat and breathe, you have to learn by rote.
Just a little something to think about. We need to start being kinder to ourselves and most importantly, to our brains!
If you’re interested in buying it, you can pick it up from Amazon here.
Have you tried mindfulness for yourself? Have you found it useful?