Mental Health

Why you should do one thing a day that scares you a little

Good morning folks!

I’m so grateful for everyones lovely comments about my first post (if you didn’t catch it you can read it here) it’s so heartwarming to hear all your words of encouragement. That first post is also partly the inspiration for todays; I was absolutely terrified of taking the plunge and finally starting this blog!

You’re putting yourself out there, your thoughts and feelings and in this way you’re opening yourself up for some hate and abuse. I’ve seen bloggers and YouTubers receive some absolutely horrendous comments and I didn’t want to go through that. I was bullied all the way through school and, while I’ve finally managed to hit that f*ck it point where I don’t care what people say, I’m still human. Nasty comments still hurt. On a lil bit of a side note here I just want to say to people; please think before you type! That person has feelings and you don’t know what your comment could trigger. If you wouldn’t say it to their face then please don’t type it; you could really do some harm to a persons mental wellbeing without realising it.

Right little rant over, back on point; doing a little something every day that scares you. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m really bad for sitting in my comfort zone and staying there! I’m a really social person if I have something in common or that I can talk about with you but I never used to start a conversation first and would even avoid eye contact on bad days. However over the last year or so I’ve set myself the goal that I will try to socialise with and talk to more people. I live in a little village so this is easier than I thought it would be; stand at the bus stop, smile at someone who’s also there and if they smile back (which they usually do) they will normally start a conversation with me about how the bus is late (again) and how they bet two will come together (as always)…its so much easier than I thought it would be! Its a habit thats starting to slip into my everyday life now and I’m so happy about it 🙂

I also managed to go to Costa, order and drink and actually sit in with it while doing some work a few weeks ago. Now I get that some people will be reading that statement with a raised eyebrow thinking “why would that be a problem?!” but for me it is something I’ve always struggled with. As I mentioned in my last post I have “suspected” Aspergers and the large amount of people combined with the loud noise of the coffee machines, plus not understanding the unwritten rule for how long you can stay working there without having to buy another coffee (seriously guys this actually needs clarifying, put a poster up or something!) puts me on edge and normally sets off a panic attack. However this time I planed out what I was going to order, checked that the shop wasn’t too busy before I said sitting in (thankfully it was only about half full)  and set myself my own time limit for how long I could stay of half an hour. While I was on edge the whole time I didn’t actually have a panic attack, just a constant feeling of anxiety which was tolerable. However once I’d got up and left something unexpected happened- I felt awesome! I felt so accomplished with what I had managed to do; it put me in a great, positive mood for the next day or two!

So this is my challenge to you; do something everyday that scares you a little. Start off by doing it for a week, it only needs to be little things like going to the local shops to pick up a treat for yourself (its an excuse to buy chocolate, use it!) or message someone you might have lost contact with slightly. Once you’ve done this, reflect on it, how do you feel knowing you’ve managed to do something that you find difficult? These little things will start to become good habits that you do without even realising it and you can slowly start to do bigger and bigger challenges until you’re doing all the things you never thought you’d do…I still refuse to skydive though, no way in hell is that one happening!

I would love to know if you decide to try this out! Either drop me a message in the comments or on Twitter – jademarie93 – and let me know what you’ve been doing 🙂

I look forward to hearing from you!

See you next time!

What are your thoughts? Let me know!