So today I turn 25 – a quarter of a century!
I really can’t believe I’ve just typed that; I don’t feel my age at all. I still feel like a 15 year old who has no idea what she’s doing with her life or how to navigate being an adult.
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact I still live at home with my parents.
Nothing makes you feel like a kid so much as knowing you have a set time to be back in the house for, or having to ask permission for Chris to sleep over for the night.
Don’t get me wrong, there are perks to still living at home too!
Because I’m not having to pay as much as I would in private renting, I’ve been able to save some of my student loan while I’ve been at university.
Plus it’s given me a bit of a security blanket for starting my own business – I know if it all goes wrong, I won’t starve or end up homeless.
Still, living at home at 25 has quite a bit of stigma attached to it.
I struggle most days with feeling not good enough, and that I’m just sat here wasting my life. I worry that my parents are disappointed in me, and that they secretly wish I’d hurry up and move out.
But over the past year, I’ve come to realise that everyone does things at a different pace.
You might be happily single. You might not want kids. You might not want the stress and worry of a mortgage. You might want to take a year and just travel around the world.
What you want from life can be completely different to what someone else does – and that’s great!
So on that theme, I’ve put together a list of 25 things that I wish I’d figured out years ago. Kind of a cliche birthday blog post, but it’s nice to do the classics every so often.
- You can’t please everyone, so do what you love regardless of what others say
- Self care isn’t selfish
- It’s okay to change your mind
- Your mental health should come before everything else
- Cutting out toxic people from your life is one of the best things you can do for your wellbeing
- You’re never too old to change your life
- You’re also never too old to learn a new skill
- Saving money is really important, but so is treating yourself and celebrating your achievements
- Being different isn’t a bad thing – in fact it has lots of advantages
- Just because someone believes something about you, doesn’t make it true
- Taking risks can sometimes lead to big rewards
- You don’t have to have your life perfectly planned out in your 20s…or even your 30s!
- Don’t compare yourself to other people – it does nothing except upset you and distract you from your goals
- Being polite and kind to someone can have a huge impact on their day
- Worrying means you suffer twice (totally not borrowed that one from Fantastic Beasts…)
- Trust your instincts, they’re usually right
- Being “bossy” and “stubborn” are good things, especially as a woman
- Do what’s right for you, even if other people don’t agree with it
- Charity shops are amazing places and you can find some real bargains in them; plus your purchase helps a good cause!
- Work when you’re at your most productive, rather than when society says you should
- It’s okay not to be interested in traveling or going on holiday
- It’s also okay to not enjoy going out or drinking – my idea of a perfect friday night is curled up in my fluffy pjs, with a cup of tea either watching true crime documentaries or a good book!
- Talking about your problems is always better than bottling them up
- Never leave the house without a portable charger (especially if you own an iPhone!)
- Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do
What is the most important thing you’ve learnt so far?