So today I turn 25 – a quarter of a century!
I really can’t believe I’ve just typed that; I don’t feel my age at all. I still feel like a 15 year old who has no idea what she’s doing with her life or how to navigate being an adult.
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact I still live at home with my parents.
Nothing makes you feel like a kid so much as knowing you have a set time to be back in the house for, or having to ask permission for Chris to sleep over for the night.
Don’t get me wrong, there are perks to still living at home too!
Because I’m not having to pay as much as I would in private renting, I’ve been able to save some of my student loan while I’ve been at university.
Plus it’s given me a bit of a security blanket for starting my own business – I know if it all goes wrong, I won’t starve or end up homeless.
Still, living at home at 25 has quite a bit of stigma attached to it.
I struggle most days with feeling not good enough, and that I’m just sat here wasting my life. I worry that my parents are disappointed in me, and that they secretly wish I’d hurry up and move out.
But over the past year, I’ve come to realise that everyone does things at a different pace.
You might be happily single. You might not want kids. You might not want the stress and worry of a mortgage. You might want to take a year and just travel around the world.
What you want from life can be completely different to what someone else does – and that’s great!
So on that theme, I’ve put together a list of 25 things that I wish I’d figured out years ago. Kind of a cliche birthday blog post, but it’s nice to do the classics every so often.
You can’t please everyone, so do what you love regardless of what others say
Self care isn’t selfish
It’s okay to change your mind
Your mental health should come before everything else
Cutting out toxic people from your life is one of the best things you can do for your wellbeing
You’re never too old to change your life
You’re also never too old to learn a new skill
Saving money is really important, but so is treating yourself and celebrating your achievements
Being different isn’t a bad thing – in fact it has lots of advantages
Just because someone believes something about you, doesn’t make it true
Taking risks can sometimes lead to big rewards
You don’t have to have your life perfectly planned out in your 20s…or even your 30s!
Don’t compare yourself to other people – it does nothing except upset you and distract you from your goals
Being polite and kind to someone can have a huge impact on their day
Worrying means you suffer twice (totally not borrowed that one from Fantastic Beasts…)
Trust your instincts, they’re usually right
Being “bossy” and “stubborn” are good things, especially as a woman
Do what’s right for you, even if other people don’t agree with it
Charity shops are amazing places
Work when you’re at your most productive, rather than when society says you should
It’s okay not to be interested in traveling or going on holiday
Talking about your problems is always better than bottling them up
Never leave the house without a portable charger (especially if you own an iPhone!)
Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do
Laugh as often as you can and an loud as you want
Is there something you wish you’d known/realised sooner?
Thanks for stopping by! I’m a twenty-five-year-old digital media graduate with a passion for writing and a desire to change the way we view mental health and autism. I’ve owned jademarie.co.uk for nearly two years now, and its slowly changed from a place where I would brain dump whatever was going through my head that day, into a place where people can come for help, advice and hopefully a bit of a laugh. I do occasionally come out with a witty sentence or two. Mostly by accident.