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Getting Ready to Finish University & Planning My Future | April Life Update

06/04/2018

Oh hi remember me? It’s been so long since I last got a post up that you could be forgiven for forgetting who I am!

My life has been one huge mess for the past month and it’s only going to get worse through April. In case you don’t follow me on Twitter and haven’t seen what’s been going on, I thought I’d do a little life update post to explain why I’ve all but disappeared off the face off the earth recently.

Get ready for a brain-dump post because I can imagine thats what this is going to be…

Well first off, my mental health has taken a real nose dive recently as I’m currently in the last month of my university degree and its deadline season!

I’ve been so busy trying to get three different projects finished that I’ve had no time for anything else; which is why the blog has unfortunately had to take a back seat. I’ve also not had any time to practice anything but the most basic self care, and even then my brain has been worrying about deadlines and how much I have left to do so it hasn’t really been relaxing or helpful.

Its got to the point where it’s effecting my sleep and I’ve had a near constant headache for the past week or so!

University hasn’t been a brilliant time for me if I’m being completely honest; it’s been a really lonely and stressful experience and in some ways, I won’t be sorry to be leaving. One of my most popular posts is actually all about why not everyone enjoys their time at university, so I guess I’m not the only one who doesn’t love the student life.

Although I’m not going to lie; I will miss my student discount!

Getting Ready to Finish University & Planning My Future | April Life Update

At the same time I’m also terrified of leaving. It means I have decisions to make that I don’t really know if I’m in the right place mentally to make; decisions about my future.

I’ve spoken a lot on this blog about wanting to become self employed and I honestly see that as my only option where employment is concerned; I can’t cope with “regular” jobs because of my mental health. Most days I struggle to leave the house on my own and I can’t cope being around people for any length of time- both because of my anxiety and my autism.

The biggest problem that I would have if I went down that route is actually getting freelance jobs. I struggle with communication and outreach so much (a lot more than I allow to show on social media) and I think this would cause me a lot of problems getting sponsored posts and brand collaborations. I’ve had someone mention hiring a VA (virtual assistant) to do this for me, which I’m going to look into. I’m not sure if this is something they would do or if I’d be able to afford to front the cost until I was making a regular income, but it seems like something that would really help me so I want to look into it more.

My other option is to stay on and do a Journalism Masters. This is something I’ve been considering all year but I really can’t decide if it would be worth it, especially as I’d be getting myself in an extra £10,000 of debt!

I was originally going to go to the open day and talk to the tutors there, to see what they had to say about the course and how it could help me; but it happened to be on the day that the dreaded Beast From The East arrived and I ended up snowed in and couldn’t go.

The next one is in May so hopefully the weather will be a bit better and I’ll be able to actually get there this time!

How To Be Human By Ruby Wax and iPhone 6s

I suppose theres also a third option; register myself as self employed and doing the Masters at the same time. That sounds like a meltdown waiting to happen, but at the same time it does give me a bit of a safety net; I’d have my student loan to live off of and I could save up any money that I made from freelancing to invest back into the business.

Actually just typing that has made me realise that’s probably the best option. I’ll just need to be a hell of a lot more organised and focused than I have been this year!

I did warn you this was going to be a brain-dump kind of post…

So yeah April is probably going to be a quiet one on my blog. I need to focus on getting all of my projects finished and handed in on time (hopefully getting Firsts after all this stress!) and then I’m probably going to take a week or so to myself to focus on my mental health.

I hope you all understand and stick with me through this time; I’ve got so many amazing things planned for May and I can’t wait to get back to blogging regularly- I’ve actually really missed it!

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Getting Ready to Finish University & Planning My Future | April Life Update

26 responses to “Getting Ready to Finish University & Planning My Future | April Life Update”

  1. Lisa says:

    I totally understand that this is a tricky and somewhat overwhelming situation, but the only advice I can give you is to not stress too much about it all – which, I understand, sounds like the dumbest thing to say. When I finished uni, I didn’t reeeally know what I wanted to do with my life, and that’s okay! I worked for a bit, then moved abroad and worked for a bit, then went self-employed and I’m still not quite sure what is happening – life is just a big learning curve and it’s so easy to feel pressured by society’s or family’s expectations. It seems like you’re really putting thought and effort into your future, and that’s amazing! You’re aware of your situation and you’re thinking about the pros and cons of different options; everything else will fall into place eventually 🙂 And if you ever need to vent or want to bounce ideas off someone, let me know xxx

  2. Good luck for your last month of uni Jade, you can do it!x

  3. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much Lisa ☺️ I’m glad to know I’m not the only one!! I really hope you’re right and that everything does fall into place 🤞🏼 xxx

  4. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much lovely!!x

  5. andthenzen says:

    It’s definitely a difficult time with lots of big decisions – but I agree that doing your Masters and registering as self-employed at the same time sounds like the best idea! You can sort of, test the waters without throwing yourself into the water entirely and still be able to survive.. 🙊

  6. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you 😊 I’m glad it makes sense to someone else other than just me 🙈 I thought it might be a bit of a safety net too- I’ll still have a bit of money coming in so won’t be as terrifying as having nothing coming in at all 🙊

  7. I was awful when I left uni especially because I couldn’t then work for what I’d trained to do!! Keep your options open as long as possible and I’m sure your path will become clear!! I’ve had a mental health drop too, so just remember to take some time for yourself whenever you can xx

  8. astrobeks says:

    Good luck for all your projects, and I hope by the end of the month you’ll be feeling a lot better within yourself!

  9. Jade Marie says:

    I’m sorry to hear that hun! I’m definitely going to try and be as open minded as possible, I don’t want to shut off any possible avenues ☺️ I’ve spent the whole of today on self care and I’m feeling quite a bit better for it- I hope your mental health drop doesn’t last long!xx

  10. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much lovely! 😊 I hope so too!

  11. Good for you. Good luck too with whatever your path holds xx

  12. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you 😊

  13. Good luck with your final term of uni! The final term is so so stressful but once you finish the feeling is amazing and it’ll be totally worth it! ☺️ As for what to do after uni try not to stress too much about it (I know it’s easier said than done) I graduated in 2014 with a degree in graphics … I currently work an admin job and I’m just in the process of getting back into my graphics and hopefully looking to start up at Etsy shop soon!
    Good luck 😘 xx
    Charlotte | charlotteshares.co.uk

  14. Good luck with your last few weeks of uni! Your blog is very uplifting xx

  15. perrinevautour says:

    I’m sorry to hear this, but you can be proud of yourself to have come this far! It does seems like everything is going to be fine in the and that’s great 🙂 I actually took the free-lance route after graduating, so if you have any questions or just want to talk about it don’t hesitate sending me a DM 🙂

    Perrine
    http://www.ola-banana.com

  16. Rosie says:

    It can be such a scary time but you seem to have so many good ideas as well as seeming calm and not freaking out! Don’t worry, almost no one knows what they want to do!

  17. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes – YOU CAN DO IT. I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life, I feel like I’m just constantly winging it and I’ll know when I find it and I hated uni too, so much so that I didn’t even finish my degree. I guarantee you everyone’s a little lost in some area of their life.
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

  18. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much lovely! ☺️ Best of luck with the Etsy store 😁 I had one for a while for digital downloads and I’m thinking of setting one up again too for things like printable bullet journal sheets and such ☺️ xx

  19. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much ☺️ I’m so glad you enjoy my blog and find it uplifting ☺️ xx

  20. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much Perrine! ☺️ I think I might just take you up on that…once I actually have some free time 😂 I hope you’re right and it does all work out ☺️

  21. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you hun ☺️ I’m trying not to freak out, mainly because it’s not going to help me- it’ll only make things worse! I’ve heard a lot of people saying that so I’m glad I’m not the only one!

  22. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much Alice! 😘 winging it isn’t necessarily a bad thing, sometimes the best things happen when we don’t know what the heck we’re doing!

    I’m sorry to hear uni was so bad for you though! 😔 the only reason I’ve stuck it out is because I’m seriously bloody stubborn (past the point that’s good for me normally!) but I sometimes wish I’d done things differently xx

  23. Marta says:

    Sending positive vibes your way. You got this 🙂

  24. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much lovely! 😊

  25. Blimey Jade! What a bundle of stresses you’ve had. With all these questions popping up at the same time, it’s no wonder you’re feeling overwhelmed with it all! Maybe take it one problem at a time 🙂 I’m sorry to hear uni wasn’t what you hoped it would be. It’s interesting to hear the other side of the coin, someone NOT liking uni, compared to a post telling you why it’s amazing. I hope all your projects and deadlines go okay – I’m sure you’ve got this!

    I’m self-employed so if you need any advice on that, you know where to find me. My anxiety makes me struggle with “real” jobs as well but I’m hoping to maybe find a small, part-time job which is local at some point in the near future. Maybe consider that as well as being self-employed?

    Anyway, enough rambling! If you ever wanna chat, you know where I am! <3 xxx

  26. Jade Marie says:

    Thank you so much Jenny!! Once I have things settled a little more I’ll definitely drop you a message on Twitter ☺️ I’m actually looking at a local paid internship which I might be able to manage 🤔

    And yeah you see so many posts about how abscond it is, you feel so lost when you don’t have the same experience 😔 one projects been handed in now… just 5 more to go 😫😂

    Again thanks hun, I really appreciate it! 🖤 xxx

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Thanks for stopping by! I’m a twenty-five-year-old digital media graduate with a passion for writing and a desire to change the way we view mental health and autism. I’ve owned jademarie.co.uk for nearly two years now, and its slowly changed from a place where I would brain dump whatever was going through my head that day, into a place where people can come for help, advice and hopefully a bit of a laugh. I do occasionally come out with a witty sentence or two. Mostly by accident.

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