This is mine and Chris’s second Valentines Day together and while we got each other cards and presents last year, it was more because we felt like we had to, rather than because we particularly wanted to. It’s forced on you so much and you’re made to feel like a bad person if you don’t take part. Although we did it in our own special way; instead of getting me flowers, he got me a cactus.
We named him Fluffy and he lasted a good 6 months before I managed to kill him. Considering the only time my mum tried to look after one it only lasted 3 weeks, I think I did pretty well!
Anyway, this year we decided to ditch it. No cards, no presents. We aren’t even seeing each other.
Although that last one is mostly because I’m stuck in uni until 6pm than through choice. I’d much rather be curled up in bed with Chris and a glass of wine watching Netflix all night, but what can you do.
We just don’t see the point in it as we buy each other things year round; Chris is always treating my to a meal, a new book or a bar of chocolate.
Yes I’m a spoilt bitch.
At the end of the day Chris summed it up perfectly; “why would I want to spend just one day showing my love, when I can do it all year round?”
So instead of buying each other stupidly expensive gifts that we don’t really need, we’re going to take what we call “me days”. They’re basically just days where we have time apart to do whatever it is we feel like, without feeling guilty if we don’t text each other.
Personally I think its a great way to keep your own individuality and space while you’re in a relationship. I love Chris to pieces but as an introvert, there are times where I just want my own space to do my own thing.
Luckily Chris is exactly the same so he doesn’t mind; normally we end up wanting them at about the same time so it works out pretty well.
While we aren’t planning on doing anything on V-Day itself; we are planning on going to the cinema at the weekend for our weekly date night. We’re ridiculously hyped for Black Panther right now!!
Now I’m not bashing the day as I know some people love it, but its one of those things that I think is personal preference. We might decide to celebrate it in years to come, we might not.
But the important thing is that its personal choice.
I wrote a post at Christmas that is just as fitting here; we shouldn’t have a go at other people for how they choose to celebrate certain events- or not as the case may be! We need to be mindful of other people out there who might find the day difficult; those who have lost the ones they love or who are away serving in the military for example.
Celebrate however you like, but don’t be pushy towards those who choose not to.
We don’t need just one day to show the person we love how we feel; we should do it every single day. Especially as we don’t know which one could be our last.
And on that deep note, I’m off to take advantage of all the chocolate on sale right now!
Do you celebrate V-Day? Or are you like us and just think its overrated?
A twenty-four-year-old autistic writer and designer from Sheffield. Tattoo obsessed, animal lover, self confessed bookworm and eclectic witch.