Not Everyone Enjoys Their Time At University

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So this post is basically inspired by a tweet I saw from the lovely Sophie (PetalsOfPerfection) that said:

Beyond excited to graduate… sorry but if anyone says to me that uni years are the best years of my life. YOU ARE WRONG.

I couldn’t agree more!

I’m so sick of hearing that your days at university are the best of your life, that it’s where you’ll meet your best friends for life and you’ll always wish you could go back.

Because it’s just not true for everyone!

I hate university. Or rather I suppose I should clarify that – I hate the university that I’m currently at.

As some of you may remember, I originally went to a very small university that had 7 people in my class; everyone got on really well and I had two of the best years I’d ever had in education.

Hell, I even managed to go out on (and more importantly, enjoy) nights out every other week!

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But then I moved to Sheffield Hallam to top up my HND into a full degree and everything changed.

I had to redo the second year as I changed courses slightly- I moved from graphic design to digital media production. This meant I was coming into a class full of people who already knew each other and had solid friendship groups.

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People just completely ignored me and I just sat at the front feeling completely isolated and upset.

Things didn’t really change even after I’d been there a year!

Worse than that, it turns out that there’s no age limit to bullying: I was getting snide comments and sarcastic remarks from a group of boys almost from the second I walked into my first lesson.

It only stopped when they realised I wasn’t going to show any emotion or react to what they were doing.

In all honesty, it was worse than being in secondary school – at least there I had a few friends to sit with at dinner, talk to during class and walk around with.

I will honestly be so glad when I’ve graduated. I’ve not even started my final year and I’m already having panic attacks about having to go in again!

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The thing is that I want to try and do a masters in journalism, which would mean not only getting myself into even more debt (I probably already owe over £50,000!) but it means staying at university and putting myself through hell for another year.

I can’t decide if it’s worth it or not.

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Not only that but I’m sick of having a stereotype attached to me when I say I’m a uni student! Not everyone wants to go out and party. Not everyone even leaves home!

I chose to keep living at home and just commute in because I couldn’t afford (and couldn’t stand the thought of living in) student accommodation. I don’t go out drinking and partying holds no interest to me.

Sure I went out at my previous university, but that’s because I enjoyed the company and had fun beating the guys at pool – not because I wanted to go drinking and partying.

I was always back home by 10pm and I never got drunk…well except when I tried cocktails for the first time and didn’t realise they took a while to hit you…I won’t make that mistake again!

If you don’t enjoy university, for whatever reason, I promise you that you aren’t alone. The response to Sophie’s tweet actually surprised me: so many people tweeted that they hated university too and couldn’t wait to leave!

What has your experience been? Do you love university or hate it?

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  • rebekahgillian says:

    I haven’t been to university, but as someone who considered it my next steps up until very recently, it’s really interesting to hear a perspective unlike the one pushed down your throat by education officials. I think it proves that you really have to love the university environment you’re going into, and that it can make all the difference in the enjoyment you get out of the course. Good luck if you do decide to go ahead and get your masters in journalism; it would be a shame if others stopped you from achieving your dreams.

  • Jade Marie says:

    I hope I’ve not put you off going :/ you’re right though, you have to love the environment and atmosphere of it all really otherwise it can have a bit of an adverse effect on your studies, especially at the beginning while you get used to it all 🙁 thank you though lovely! I never thought I’d do a masters so it’s really strange to think about haha I’d love to do it though if I could talk my way into the course 🙂

  • Life of Little Things says:

    I saw the same tweet and thought ‘thank god’ – everyone hypes up university so much and I’ve not enjoyed my first year at all! So reassuring to hear I’m not the only one xxxx

  • Jade Marie says:

    I’m sorry you’ve not enjoyed your first year hun 🙁 hopefully things pick up for you! I thought the same when I saw it though- thank goodness it’s not just me!xxxx

  • Britney says:

    That’s awful that people were still being bullies in college. Some people just never seem to grow up, and it’s sad.

  • Jade Marie says:

    Once a bully always a bully in some cases, on of my friends gets bullied at work by someone who’s in her 40’s!

  • rebekahgillian says:

    No, don’t worry; I decided a while ago that university wasn’t really the place for me–at least not yet! Yeah, I remember binge-watching series about university introductions when I was younger, and I could relate to those who struggled to fit in more than those who went out and partied all the time. I feel like I have very little in common with other people my age sometimes, haha!
    I have my fingers crossed for you. I’m sure you’ll do great if you do decide to go for the opportunity!

  • Jade Marie says:

    Oh good; I was worried I’d put you off! I’ve never had anything much in common with people my age, I was brought up with adults so I’m too mature for my own good lol thanks lovely, I really appreciate that!

  • Chichi says:

    Thank you for writing this post. It seems as though there’s so much pressure to go to university and to have the ‘perfect time’ at university. But it doesn’t exist.

    I don’t regret going to university. I loved my course and loved the university I went to. But I didn’t like a lot of the people I met there (flatmates and friends) and they kind of ruined my time there. I really think your time at university can be influenced by the people you are surrounded with. I met a lot of toxic people at university and that had an adverse effect on me. Also, I’m quite mature for my age and I always felt judged for not fitting in.

    Also, I can’t stand the ‘friends for life’ thing. Life works in mysterious ways and you can meet your friends for life anywhere – not just at university! I hardly have any friends from university and before I entered my final year, I cut a lot of people off and distanced myself because they were so horrible to me.


  • Jade Marie says:

    I’m glad you found my post useful and relatable and I’m sorry you had to put up with such toxic people!

    I’m glad that you managed to cut them out of your life in your final year, you don’t need that kind of crap in your life!

  • Ashlyn says:

    I enjoyed my time at college, but I definitely agree that it’s isn’t (and shouldn’t be) the best time of your life. It often felt like living in limbo between childhood and full fledged adulthood, you aren’t fully one or the other!

  • Jade Marie says:

    Yeah it’s a bit of a weird time like that, you’re expected to act like an adult but still treat like a child!

  • chloeluye says:

    There’s so much pressure on having ‘the best time of your life’ at university, but people need to know that it’s okay not to be okay at uni. I can understand where you’re coming from, and it’s scary thinking that you’re the only person not enjoying university when you society is saying you’should’ be. Thank you for writing and sharing such an honest post.
    Chloe x

  • Jade Marie says:

    That’s why I felt I had to write the post; because so many people feel bad for not enjoying uni when it’s a lot more common than they realise!x

  • Lilly Even says:

    Oh my god, I couldn’t relate more. I hated my whole uni experience. The only things I’m grateful for are good teachers and postgrads that landed my my current job.

  • Jade Marie says:

    I wish we had good teachers, ours can be so hit and miss! 😔 I’m glad you managed to land on your feet with a good job though 😊

  • Lilly Even says:

    We had ups and downs with our teachera as well but some of them were realy helpful and life changing. (And some of them literally annoyed my life for a full year). But after school this just seems so laughable, all the stupid things you have to sit through and just wait them out. It truly gets better after school! (Also I didnt know what to do with the free time after. So I started a blog)

  • I personally hate university too. I just really want to get better at more languages and it seems impossible. I hate the things we learn. My classmates are awful to me. My tutor ignores me. even after making a complaint to the uni – she still ignores me. I hate the stigma too. I don’t go out drinking – and I live with my boyfriend (I do distance university!) but everyone thinks I must love to drink and party. I never have. I just wish I could finish uni and get it done with! I don’t feel like it’s worth the money!

  • Jade Marie says:

    Oh hun I’m so sorry to hear that!! 😔 how long do you have left until you leave? I don’t understand why there’s this big idea that everyone loves it; most of the people I’ve spoken to absolutely hate it! And yeah it’s definitely not worth the money you’re forced to pay for it!

  • I know it’s awful! I have 3 years left! Seems never ending! Xx

  • Jade Marie says:

    Oh damn that’s a long time! I’m in my final year luckily…best of luck hun! 😔 xx

  • Thank you for this post, I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time in university. (I’m actually doing a BA in journalism if you ever wanna mrssame and ask what it’s like)
    People used to say school was the best days of your life, and I had the worst time of my life there, and now they say college is when I absolutely hate it there too. Most people who say that to me nebne finished school or went to college, so don’t even know what it’s like, I’m happier over summer and christmas holidays so to me, that means I’m gonna be happier overall when I graduate (thankfully this is my last semester)
    I’m in the same boat that I’m glad I’m not living there because I think I’d have dropped out if my whole life was university rather than a few hours a day.

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