How I’m Trying To Be More Positive About My Body Image

How I’m Trying To Be More Positive About My Body Image • Jade Marie • Mental Health Awareness Week • Be Body Kind

The theme for this years Mental Health Awareness Week is Body Image – something that I’ve struggled with all my life.

I’ve been bullied for the way I look throughout school: I’m fat, my boobs are too tiny, I have “thunder thighs”, my skin is too oily so I look sweaty, I look like a pig…

It’s been 10 years since I left school, but these are all things I can still here people saying whenever I look in a mirror.

How I’m Trying To Be More Positive About My Body Image • Jade Marie • Mental Health Awareness Week • Be Body Kind

I can’t remember a time when I’ve ever actually liked my body or wanted to show it off. Even in the height of summer when it’s 30+ degrees I’ll still wear trousers and a baggy T-shirt, rather than risk wearing shorts!

But I’m working on it.

Positive Self Talking 

Every day when I get ready and start to hear those thoughts, I try to challenge them. 

I look in the mirror and make myself find something I like about myself that day, that I then say out loud to my reflection. 

My skin looks really clear. My hair is actually doing what I want it do for once. The new pair of jeans I picked up really suit me. 

It doesn’t have to be something major, but highlighting at least one thing you like about yourself can help challenge the negative voices and is a great way to practice self love. 

If the thoughts come back during the day, I’ll repeat that compliment to myself over and over again.

Just not usually out loud!

How I’m Trying To Be More Positive About My Body Image • Jade Marie • Mental Health Awareness Week • Be Body Kind

I’m not going to lie, there are some days I can’t find a single positive thing about myself.

Those are the days I have to just accept it’s going to be a bad mental health day and have a slow, self care based day. 

[Related: 7 No Frills Ways To Practice Self Care When You’re Feeling Crap]

Having A Social Media Shake Up 

I don’t necessarily mean unfollowing people here, although that is something that can be really positive for your mental health. 

I’m trying to be more mindful about the kind of content I see on my feeds, so I’m slowly switching out anything negative and following more positive and inspiring content; both around body image and in general. 

Katie May and Vix Meldrew are two of my favourite instagram accounts for this!

Stop With The Self Deprecating Humours 

This one is probably the hardest change I’m trying to make. 

Self deprecating humour is how I survived all the years of bullying, and it’s a hard habit to break after nearly 20 years. 

If I call myself fat/ugly/whatever before someone else can, they loose the chance to use it against me. 

As Tyrion Lannister (who is basically my spirit animal) says; wear it like armour, and no one can hurt you with it. 

But the thing is, saying those kinds of things about myself just adds to the negative self talk and feeds the voices in my head; which is why I’m trying to cut it out. 

How I’m Trying To Be More Positive About My Body Image • Jade Marie • Mental Health Awareness Week • Be Body Kind

Being body positive in today’s world is tough! 

The media is constantly telling us we need to look a certain way to be considered desirable, and let’s not forget the good old “is your body beach ready” slogan. 

Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to see society slowly changing to focus more on body positivity, self love and acceptance/representation of all body types! 

But there is still such a long way to go. 

Accepting and loving my body is something I think I’ll be working on for a long time, but I can’t wait to get to the point of confidently walking out of my door with a pair of shorts and a cropped T-shirt on! 

Do you struggle with your body image? What advice would you give to other people? 

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  • I feel this post on a deep, deep level. I’ve always suffered from really low self esteem about the way I look (this is the topic of a post I wrote just yesterday actually!) and it’s been so damaging. Some days I’ll actively pick myself apart, look in the mirror and tell myself everything I hate about myself. I’m definitely getting better with it but it’s still there, it’s still a struggle.

    Social media – as much as I love it – definitely hasn’t helped with it at ALL though. Being constantly bombarded with images of beautiful “perfect” (usually edited and photo shopped) people can’t be good for anyone’s mental well-being.

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

  • tonyalee says:

    I feel you! I’ve been very self conscious about my bust size, and belly, since having kids. It’s easy to wear those comments like armor, and act like it doesn’t affect us still.

    Social media isn’t good for my self esteem simply because of all the pics LOL Like, I know it’s the best of the best being posted, but I still compare myself.

  • I relate to this so much Jade! I’m so happy to see you are taking the right steps. I just remember that in school everyone is still so young and learning about the world, so I tried not to pay attention to things like that. Social media isn’t the best for body image sometimes, but you’re doing the right thing. I sometimes unfollow accounts that are starting to negatively impact me. Positivity always! X

    Megan | https://meganelizabethlifestyle.com/

  • Love this post dear, body positivity is an important topic. I love the tips you shared, especially about challenging our inner voice. Sometimes we can be our own worst critic, we need to speak more kindly to ourselves and change our perspective.

    Tx. // Tajinder Kaur

  • i have found podcasts of people who are struggling but trying to accept the good and bad all of us have, being super useful. I can’t stop listening to risingwoman when i’m feeling crap!(:

    Cate ღ 35mm in Style

  • ellesecrit says:

    I’m glad that your body image is improving, life is definitely too short to worry about it. Keep going though, you’re doing fab so far!🙂

  • Lindsey says:

    This is a really powerful post. I’ve just been having a bit of a wardrobe shake up because I didn’t feel like anything was doing me any good, wore a new outfit and it was amazing the difference it makes. It can be so hard to think positively, especially when you have to make the conscious effort to do so. Thanks for sharing – and I hope everything has a positive effect for you.

  • tralisty says:

    This is such a great post. I didn’t realise that I was doing the same things, so I’m with you. Let’s stop with the deprecating jokes.

    Naomi xo
    tralisty.com

  • Feeling good about yourself is hard for sure. It’s taken me over a year to not hate myself in every picture I take. Along the way I realized that if I wanted to start feeling better about myself then I would have to change parts of my life to make that happen and making lifestyle changes can be hard, bad habits both in my life and in my mind can be hard to break! It sounds like your working on this too and I really hope that someday you can love yourself as much as we, your readers Love you.

  • Taran says:

    Though I’m quiet ok with my body it has changed since having a baby! But it’s mine, I can work our I can eat well. I have flaws but there’s beauty there.

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