What we see on social media is very rarely (if ever) the whole picture. Some days we can be bursting with energy and motivation, others we can barely manage to get out of bed in the morning.
Even though I try my best to share the bad days and well as the good on my blog and socials; there are some things that even I keep private.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ll sometimes put out a tweet saying I’m struggling or having a bad mental health day; but I won’t go into the full details because I’m scared of being judged.
Scared of admitting that I can’t always function as a human (let alone an adult!) in my mid 20’s.
But I do have days when I can’t function; days where I don’t have the energy to shower, or tidy up or even reply to text messages from my friends.
On days like these, my traditional self care routines go out of the window. I don’t have the energy to do a full yoga workout or even do my hair and makeup.
I’m all on to drag myself out of bed if I’m being honest!
Luckily there are lots of different ways you can look after yourself, even on days that you might not actually want to.
Dry shampoo and wipes
If you don’t have the energy to get into the shower, then spritzing your hair with dry shampoo and using baby wipes or a flannel to wipe yourself down can be a great way to freshen yourself up.
You can even get festival sized wipes, which are a lot bigger than normal ones and a lot better in situations like this.
Even thought there is a lot of stigma around this (and people wrongly feel they have the right to comment on what you do or don’t do) this is often the reality of depression.
You can have no energy to do anything and a lot of the time, you’re feeling so self destructive that you don’t actually want to look after yourself.
Automated text messages
Using the text replacement tool on your phone/tablet can be a great way to let people know you’re having a bad day, without having to type it out a long message.
Having a simple phrase like “badmhday” change into a general message that explains you’re having a bad day and that you probably won’t be able to text much, will let the person know what’s going on and that you aren’t ignoring them – all without you having to type it out.
They might still reply, but if you know the person well, you can warn them in advance what that message means and ask them to give you some space when you send it.
Just make sure it’s something you wouldn’t type in a normal conversation, otherwise its going to pop up when you don’t want to!
If you don’t have the energy or inclination to cook, then there’s no shame in ordering a takeaway. Apps like Just Eat make it a lot easier to order, especially if you have social anxiety and don’t want to actually phone up to place an order.
Alternately you can buy some microwave and quick meals in advance for days like this; there’s nothing wrong with noodles, microwave chips and bakes beans!
But I’d also say try and balance things out, maybe add some fresh or dried fruit if you can. Things like grapes and raisins are good snacks that you can pick at throughout the day, and they don’t cause much mess or require you to get up and throw something away, like an apple or orange would.
And if you really can’t face eating, then at least make sure to drink some water throughout the day!
I love a good room spray; not only do they smell nice but its a great way to freshen up your room without having to get the Hoover out or change your bedding.
Scents can also help with mood – I use a lavender spray when I want to relax and an orange one when I need an energy boost.
They don’t always work, but there are times when it gives me a boost of motivation and I might even be able to cross something off my to-do list.
I mostly just spray my bedding, curtains and carpets and it really does help to quickly freshen up a room.
Open your curtains and windows
Leaving the house can take a lot of energy, and sometimes even just sitting out in the garden or on your doorstep can be too much.
So opening up your curtains and windows not only lets in the daylight, but lets in some fresh air too. It’s also another way to freshen up your room if you don’t want to use (or don’t have) a room spray.
Even in winter it can be great to sit at your windowsill and let the cold air in for a few minutes; plus its an excuse to snuggle up in a big fluffy jumper with a warm drink!
How do you practice self care when you’re having a low energy day?